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January 28, 2011

Rants and Confessions

Rant: Before having Jackson I never noticed how lazy people are. Now I see it everyday. What irritates me most is when able bodied, seemingly healthy people push the little handicap button to open the doors instead of god forbid actually having to manually pull/push on the door itself. The other thing that chaps my ass is when people go out of their way just to take an elevator down one flight when the stairs or an escalator are nearby. Amy just rolls her eyes everytime I bring this up and basically just tells me to get over it because it's really not impacting me that people are doing this. Well now I can officially say I have been affected!!

Every morning Jackson and I have to take an elevator down from the outdoors to the subway.I have to use the elevator because I have Jackson in a stoller and I look like a pack mule with all the bags I'm having to carry. Well yesterday I'm pushing Jackson in his stroller (outdoors) and am heading to the elevator which has just arrived at ground level. Five able bodied women pile in the elevator leaving no room for me, Jackson or the stroller. As Jackson and I stand there in the cold staring in disbelief one of the women hits the "Close Door" button on the elevator!! Normally I would have been irritated. But the fact that these women had no problem leaving a baby outside in the cold so they didn't have to walk down a flight of stairs left me enraged. I'm sure people around me must have thought I was an idiot but I don't care. I could tell by how they were avoiding eye contact with me that they heard me yelling at them about how ashamed they should all be feeling.

Confession: I hear it all the time, "My kid loves going to daycare". Most of the time I think that these parents are 80% totally right and 20% saying it to mask guilt of having to take their kid to daycare. Well I can 100% say that Jackson LOVES going to daycare. It's gotten to the point where he basically hurts my feelings everyday. Don't get me wrong, I am so grateful to not be one of those parents who has to leave hearing their child's cries in the background. The drop off is not my problem, it's when I pick him up that he tears my heart out, stomps on it a little bit and hands it back to me.

It used to be that when I picked him up I got the biggest of smiles and he would crawl over to me as fast as possible. Now when he sees me I get a half grin and he might reach out for me to pick him up. Once in my arms though he pushes me away and tries to get back to his teachers. When he realizes we're leaving the room he starts to cry because he doesn't want to leave. Don't get me wrong, I love the fact that he loves "going to school" but is it too much to ask for him to not love it that much??

14 comments:

Stacey said...

I hate those lazy ass people too. You know what really irritates me is the entitled people who go on the other side of the GO train which opens for the accessibility coach--it has a ramp for wheelchairs. And all of these people who are able bodied so they get on the train FIRST. I hate people. :P

Aw sorry he's so in love with daycare. My kids are happy to see me but they run around like maniacs until I say I'm leaving without them. Maybe when he's older he'll cry to follow you if you use that threat. LOL. Hey, say hi to the director for us when you see her. We miss her. :)

Shannon said...

Wow. How very un-Canadian of those lazy women. I can't even believe that! You really yelled at them? You're awesome. When things like that happen to me I just give the dirty look and say, "Nice" or something like that. I'm so glad I don't live or work in Toronto. I couldn't handle crap like that on a daily basis.

Ian used to break my heart when he'd cry when I left him at daycare but he loves it now and just blows me a kiss if I'm lucky. On Tuesday he ran right into his teacher's arms and gave her the biggest hug ever. It's good that Jackson loves it so much, but I can see how it would be upsetting for you. :(

J and DZ said...

Navigating the city with all of the able bodies that use ramps/wheelchair doors/elevators is maddening but the TTC is the worst.

Are you still at the same daycare? It is good that Jackson is happy but it would break my heart too. I have my own version with a cranky baby who doesn't want to let go of Granny when I get home. I complained to a few co-workers and they all said that their kids dis that with their nanny/daycare etc. Made me feel a bit better. I think. (:

Laurie said...

Good for you for yelling at those women!! I would love to know what you said ;) . I am always disgusted when I'm walking in a parking lot with Ryan and it's cold / snowing / raining and cars don't stop to let us cross. Hello?? Baby in the nasty weather?! What the #%@# is wrong with people!

Shannan Riemer said...

This is a good post-I CANT believe that a gaggle of women would actually press close door! BITCHES!
good for you for addressing it properly:)

as for daycare, Jacob loves it so much that he gets pissed at us after a couple of days at home. winter break was hell on earth.
I dont feel guilty because we are paying these professionals a lot of money to keep our boys entertained-which is very hard to do.

Beth said...

We love using the handicap button on doors, it's fun. But we're never in anyone's way when we do. And I use elevators for 1 floor sometimes, I look healthy enough, but I've got terrible knees, or I don't want to go looking all over for the stairs (in cases where they're not next to each other).

No, there's no excuse for making someone with a baby stay outside any longer than necessary.

Yes, there are evil, lazy people out there, but maybe not as many as it seems sometimes.

reproducinggenius said...

What an awful experience with the elevator! I'm so sorry you encountered such selfish people, but they are everywhere, aren't they? I can't count the number of times I've had to yield to perfectly able-bodied people when I've had BG in a stroller or on my back while carrying countless things--or when I've had to yield to CARS containing people who could easily have stopped at a stop sign but instead decided to blow through and wave at me as if to say, "Hey, thanks for letting me break the law and not jumping out in front of me!" And I do yell at those people, or gesture wildly. I can't help myself; it makes me feel so unsafe when I'm out in the world with my son. Agh! Okay, now I'm ranting on your blog. Just know, I hear ya, and had I been there, I would have run up the stairs and met those ladies with a nice stern lecture about selfish behavior.

Jen said...

I have a boy that also 100% percent loves to go "to school" and waves his arms and points at the door in the morning saying, let's get out of here and take me where I want to go! It will eb and flow and some days his behavior may be different. Hang in there!

Next in Line said...

I have had very angry thoughts about people that do not let strollers and seniors on elevators first. I have also had similiar thoughts about people that don't volunteer to give up the courtesy seat on the bus for someone who is 9 months pregnant. Grrrrr.

Michelle said...

Those women should be ashamed indeed. Good for you for yelling at them...maybe they will remember that next time and actually change their behavior. Hey, we can hope, can't we? :)

Project Baby said...

Beautiful family! And good on you for speaking up. If it were me I'd probably jam the stroller in the lift so the door couldn't shut, and address the group with a sympathetic "Aw, looks like one of you may need to step out" ?

Anonymous said...

I must say that I often take the elevator down- and that if you saw me you would probably not assume that I had a good reason to, but in fact I have a lot of ankle pain that hurts worse when I walk DOWN stairs. So, there you go. You just never know the whole story....

Still- I get uber irritated by people too sometimes.

Crista said...

I have a daughter that has brain damage and uses a wheelchair, so I see this ALL the time too. My husband is not affected by it like me, but ARG it upsets me soooo much. People are super rude and it is hard to believe how they function in everyday life. Also the people that use handicap parking as 5 minute convenience parking. We took our daughter to a magic show at our local theater last weekend and when it let out the number of people that flocked to the elevator to get to the parking garage amazed me. The stairs were right next to it and the parking garage was only 4 floors. My husband was waiting his turn, but I pushed my way up to the front blocked the doors - told him "I think you can squeeze her chair on here and Logan and I will walk up the stairs and meet you." Just amazes me - good for you for speaking up!

Anonymous said...

My son will be eleven in a couple of weeks and I still get "Mom, I don't want to leave yet" when I come to pick him up.