March 2, 2009

Whatever the Opposite of Nerves of Steel Is

This is always the worst part of this whole process for me. The few days before we go in for our fist follicle scan. I think if I really counted we have been put on a break more than we’ve been able to give it a go. The news that this cycle will not move forward has always been given during our first follicle scan, so needless to say I always go in with a nervous stomach and a small level of dread that the visit will end with bad rather than good news.

This try we have additional stress in that our other doctor’s mother-in-law is sick so we don’t know if we will even get to move forward this cycle. Long story short we have two doctors we have to work with and coordinate during this whole process. Our RE gets us ready for ovulation and then my OB/GYN does the insemination. The reason for this is the practice where our RE is has a rule that they don’t service “single women” which basically means no lesbians allowed. So after our follicle scan Wednesday I have to call the OB/GYN to see if she is going to be available to do the IUI this cycle. I honestly don’t know what I’m going to do if this gets canceled. There have been double digits of births and pregnancies since we started trying and I’m tired of being left of the sidelines.


Anonymous said...

your RE doesn't treat "single women"?!?! are you kidding me?! that's insane! you need a new RE, stat. are there others available in your area? why will he treat you through ovulation, but then not do the insem? that makes no sense.

okay. sorry for the rant, im just shocked and angry for you.

good luck tomorrow - hope this is a good news month!

Lizzie said...

Fingers crossed for you that the scan goes well and your doc is available. I'm kind of freaked by the "don't treat single women" thing - where do you live? Is that even legal? I'm just sorry it means jumping between two medical providers, because this process is hard enough with one. And I'm angry that you are treated by someone who is so disrespectful. Or maybe you like your RE but the practice has this rule, or I'm just jumping to conclusions. But I'm so willing to be pissed off on your behalf. xo and hope this month works smoothly!

Creamy Silver said...

Add me to the list of shocked. There's lots of RE's the sea. Maybe a new one will get you in sooner for follicle scans because it seems like your current waits too long anyway.

I can't imagine a cycle being cancelled because the doc is out of town. For my last insem the doc wasn't even present. The weekend nurse did the deed.

Good luck, girls. Wish you all the best.

Anonymous said...

I was so distracted after reading the 'single women' policy that I could hardly finish reading the post. That is shocking to me! I can't beleive that in this day and age they can get away with that!!! Seriously shaking my head right now.

Sorry about the anxiety of the scan. I have my fingers crossed for you and am hoping those follies are just as they should be.

Anonymous said...

I found an RE in Austin who does treat any woman who wants to conceive, but I don't respect her as a doctor. You would think in Austin we would have more choices, but I have also dealt with homophobia and discrimination in other clinics here in Austin. I finally found an OB/Gyn who is not an RE but who does treat infertility and basically does what an RE would do and is accepting and supportive. If you want her name, let me know.

I really hope the upcoming check gives you a go and the insem doctor is available at the right time.

Anonymous said...

I really can't believe your RE won't treat you. Unbelieveable. I'm so sorry that it is so freaking complicated.

I'll be thinking about you on Wednesday, hoping the timing works out. Hang in there.

Anonymous said...

I didn't know you single ladies were living outside the law! I have even more respect for you. Good luck with your next scan.

Eva said...

I know what you mean about being left in the sidelines. You RE's policy sucks! I hope this works out for you. xo

K said...

Fingers are crossed for good results tomorrow.

I know what you mean about watching the births and pregnancies pass you by. It's excruciating and I'm so sorry you have to go through any of this. :-(

*big hugs*

Anonymous said...

Sorry to hear this...typical southern Bible belt mentality. Keep your chins up. Love you, Aunt DD